Tony Attwood, renowned psychologist specialising in Autism, said something to the tune of - 'People with Asperger's don't suffer from Asperger's, they suffer from the attitudes of other people.'
Boy, he really hit the nail on the head there!
My son is the bravest person I know. School was often a frightening place where he was bombarded with everything that terrified him. Yet he would walk into that classroom every day knowing he would have to face his fears again and again. I remember one particularly difficult year, he told me very proudly as we drove home that he'd discovered a great way to cope with the playground at breaktimes - he would hide in the toilets. Terrific! Just what every parent wants to hear.
For all the teachers who saw him as a problem, he was fortunate enough to have three teachers who weren't fazed by his sensory needs to crawl into a cupboard or under cushions. They saw him as a valuable member of the class and appreciated his strengths and individuality. While in their classes his self esteem would improve, meltdowns became rare and bullying was greatly reduced.
Via Twitter I follow an Aspie who goes by the name of @aspienaut. He tweeted this post he wrote back in 2012. I think all teachers should read it. Sure it is one person's experience but it offers a window into an Aspie's experience of school.